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Are You Asking Yourself The Wrong Questions?

If you’ve ever found yourself upset, overwhelmed or in a funk and had trouble trying to ‘reason’ yourself out of it, then this article is written especially for you.

In fact, when life gets a little wonky, most people have trouble quickly getting over it because they ask the wrong questions. They use ‘why’ questions to try and figure out the upset – as though the logic based mind can reason itself out of an emotional and energetic state of being.

That approach is as effective as politely asking an untrained dog to stop peeing on the living room floor. Wrong approach = poor results.

Here’s some common ‘why’ questions that typically lead to the land of nowhere: Why do I always get angry? Why didn’t he call? Why am I so frustrated at work?

Here’s a fact: If you want to quickly regain your center so you can have great relationships, make more money and enjoy your life - forget about ‘why’ and start asking ‘what’.

‘What’ questions pull you into the moment and interrupt your well-conditioned logic system. They help you bypass the analyzing mind and compel you to observe. By neutrally observing what’s actually happening, you can dissolve your upset or funk.

Here are 3 WHAT questions to get you started.

1. “WHAT am I experiencing right now?”

Describe the actual sensation. Where is it located in your body? How big is it? Does it have a color associated with it? If it were a number from 1-10, 10 being the extreme, what number would it be. Here’s a hint: Pretend you are a scientist looking at an experiment and simply notate your discoveries. (Important: I said notate – not judge!)

2. “WHAT am I engaging in at this moment?”

Are you stewing in your mind about how overwhelmed you are OR are you actually getting something done? Remember, no two things can occupy the same mind at the same time. You’re either complaining or you’re producing. This is one the easiest ways to get yourself back on track.

3. “WHAT are my thoughts saying?"

Notice your thoughts instead of personalizing them. Say, “Hmmm…isn’t that interesting.” In my book, Make Every Man Want You, I have an entire chapter devoted to the fact that you have a mind, but you are NOT your mind, so I won’t get into that here. But once you get that your thoughts are not you, and not necessarily true, you can easily unwire upsets and funks by learning to non-judgmentally observe them.

Now here’s another great ‘what’ question to ask yourself: WHAT would you accomplish in your business – and life - if you discovered how to quickly dissolve every upset or frustration that comes along?

WHAT would your life look like without any drama at all?

If you really want to find out, then sign up for private coaching before my January 23 rate increase. Note: Only contact me if you are SERIOUS about having your life transform. If you are committed to whining, complaining or victimization – please go elsewhere.