1. American Psycho - Bret Easton Ellis
2. Assholes finish first - Tucker Max
3. Dangerous Passion- David M. Buss
4. Gentleman: A Timeless Fashion - Bernhard Roetzel
5. Start late, Finish Rich - David Bach
6. Black Mass - John Gray
7. The Interloper- Robert Antoine Wilson
8. Dangerous Men and Adventurous Women- Jayne Ann Krentz
9. Manipulated man - Esther Vilar
10. No B.S. Time Management - Dan Kennedy
11. All the Money in the World: How The Forbes 400 Make--and Spend--Their Fortunes--Peter Bernstein and Annalyn Swan
12. The present - Spencer Johnson
13. The ever Transcending spirits- Toru Sato
14. Bad Boys: How We Love Them, How to Live with Them, When to Leave Them- Carole Lieberman
15. Panasonic way
16. HOw to think like CEO
17. Tao Te Ching -Stephen Mitchell
18. The Story of My Life - Giacomo Casanova
19. The Joy of Sex -Alex Comfort
20. The Craft of the Warrior - Robert L. Spencer
21. How come that idiots rich - Robert Shamin
22. Never be boring again - Stevenson
23. Network magic - Rick Frishman and Jill lublin
24. Improvisation Inc - Robert Lowe
25. THe fantastic voyage - Ray Kurzweil
26. Flat Tax Revolution: Using a Postcard to Abolish the IRS --Steve Forbes
27. Millionare ounce - Mark Allen
28. Future Management - Gary Hamel
29. Winning through Intimidation - Ringer
30. Seven Years to Seven Figures - Michael Masterson
31. The alchemy of love and lust - Theresa L. Crenshaw
32. Moneyball: The Art of Winning an Unfair Game --Michael Lewis
33. The Soul of a New Machine-- Tracy Kidder.
34. Ideas that change the world
35. Cracking the millionare code
36. Sharper mind - Eric Jenson
37. Investment Biker -- Jim Rogers
38. Hot, Flat, and Crowded - Thomas Friedman
39. Pursuit of Happyness - Chris Gardner
40. The Hypomanic Edge: The Link Between a Little Craziness and a Lot of Success in America -- John D. Gartner;
41. The Cult of the amateur - Andrew Keen
42. Road to success - Robert Keller
43. Top Grading - Brad Smart
44. McMafia - Misha Gleny
45. Stranger than fiction: True Stories - Chuck palahniuk
46. Survivor - Chuck Palahniuk
47. Jack: Straight From The Gut - Jack Welsh
48. Options: The Secret Life of Steve Jobs, a Parody -- Fake Steve Jobs
49. Banglore tigers
50. G.D. Birla
51. The Twilight of Sovereignty -- Walter Wriston
52. Fascinating Womanhood - Helen Andelin
53. The Way the World Works -- Jude Wanniski
54. Bling Addiction: - Kylie Adams
55. Deadly Deceits - Ralph McGehee
56. One Small Step Can Change Your Life:The Kaizen Way - Robert Maurer.
57. The Four Agreements and The Mastery of Love - Don Miguel Ruiz.
58. The War of Art - Steven Pressfield.
59. The Age of Turbulence: Adventures in a New World - Alan Greenspan
60. The Black Swan: The Impact of the Highly Improbable -- Nassim Nicholas Taleb
61. Wealth and Poverty--by George Gilder
62. Prophet of Innovation: Joseph Schumpeter and Creative Destruction -- Thomas K. McCraw
63. On the Wealth of Nations -- P. J. O'Rourke;
64. Bowerman and the Men of Oregon: The Story of Oregon's Legendary Coach and Nike - Kenny Moore; Bill & Dave
65. Sex - Madonna
66. The Bonfire of the Vanities -- Tom Wolfe.
67. The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin -- Benjamin Franklin;
68, The House of Morgan: An American Banking Dynasty and the Rise of Modern Finance --Ron Chernow
69, The Forgotten Man: A New History of the Great Depression -- Amity Shlaes.
70. The New Normal: Great Opportunities in a Time of Great Risk -- Roger McNamee
71. The Innovator's Dilemma: When New Technologies Cause Great Firms to Fail -- Clayton Christensen
72. The Elephant and the Dragon: The Rise of India and China and What It Means for All of Us -- Robyn Meredith;
73. Bull's Eye Investing: Targeting Real Returns in a Smoke and Mirrors Market -- John Mauldin
74. The Road to Serfdom -- Friedrich Hayek
75. Boomtown USA: The 7 1 / 2 Keys to Big Success in Small Towns-- John M. Schultz;
76. The Intelligent Investor -- Benjamin Graham;
77. The Only Three Questions That Count: Investing by Knowing What Others Don't --Kenneth L. Fisher;
78. The Elements of Style -- William Strunk Jr. and E. B. White;
79. How We Got Here: A Slightly Irreverent History of Technology and Markets -- Andy Kessler
80. The Art of the Start: The Time-Tested, Battle- Hardened Guide for Anyone Starting Anything -- Guy Kawasaki
81. Hughes - Richard Hackman
82. In Search of Excellence: Lessons From America's Best-Run Companies -- Thomas J. Peters and Robert H. Waterman
83. It's Your Ship: Management Techniques From the Best Damn Ship in the Navy --Captain D. Michael Abrashoff
84. Speed of Trust - Stephen Covey
85. The Acts of the Apostles -- Luke;
86. The Purpose-Driven Church -- Rick Warren;
87. Move Ahead With Possibility Thinking -- Robert Schuller;
88. The Greatest Salesman in the World -- Og Mandino;
89. The Richest Man in Babylon -- George Clason;
90. What the dog saw -malcolm gladwell
91. Lords of the rings
92. The great indian novel.
93. Globality
94. Ecological intelligence-daniel goleman
95. Future of internet
96. Super freakonomics
97. The scam -debashis basu
98. The professional- subroto bagohi
99. Go Givers Sell More - Bob Burg
Sunday, January 28, 2007
Books I have but to be read
1. Secrets of attraction - Sandra Anne Taylor
2. Evolution of Desire - David Buss
3. Walmart- don soderquist
4. Fear it and do it anyways- Susan Jeffers
5. HOw to read person like a book - Gerald Nierenberg
6. Da vinci notebooks- Leonardo Da Vinci
7. the six value medals- edward de bono
8. how to have beautiful mind- edward de bono
9. How to sell anything to anybody - Joe Girard
10. The Toyota Way - Jefferey K. Liker
11 Execution - Larry Bossidy
12. Why men can't listen and women can't read maps - Alan Flusser
13. HOw a man stays young
14. Genome - Matt Ridley
15. Silent Power - Stuart Wilde
16. Unaccustomed Earth - Thampa Labizi
17. The Starbuck experience - Joseph a. Michelli
18. The selfish Gene- Richard Dawkins
19. Comedy writing secrets - Melvin Helitzer
20. YOu can win - Shiv Khera
21. Donald Trump: The Art of the Deal
22. Why we want you to be rich - Donald Trump & Robert Kiyosaki
23. The power of subconsious mind -Dr. Joseph Murphy
24. HOw to make esp work for you - Harold Sherman
25. Super power memory - Harry Lorayne
26. Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle
27. The Afghan - Frederick Forsyth
28. 7 habits of effective people - Stephen R. Covey
29. Success in 30 days - A.P. Pereira
30. Talk and grow Rich - Ron Holland
31. 50 success classics
32. The magic of pscyhograms - helyn hitchcock
33. Ultra Psychonics delaney
34. It takes one minute to change your life - Delaney
35. Hypnosis for change
36. The new leader - Daniel Goleman
37. The social Intelligence - Daniel Goleman
38. How to read better and faster - Norman Lewis
39. Deception Point - Dan Brown
40. War - Robert Greene
41. Sexual Palmistry - Nathaniel Altman
42. Think and grow rich - Napolean Hill
43. The automatic millionare - David Bach
44. Optimal Thinking - Rosalene Glickman
45. Awaken the giant with in - Anthony Robbins
46. It's Not about the bike - Lance Armstrong
47. Mind your manners - John Mole
48. Mexican American folklore - JOhn West
49. Stratergic Management - Robinson & Pearse
50. Vital Factors - Lee Frochheiser
51. How to Win Friends & Influence People - Dale Carnegie
52. Built to Last - Jim Collins
53. Lean Solutions - James P. Womack
54. Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress- Free Productivity - David Allen
55. Finding the next starbucks - Michael Moe
56. How to talk to anyone - Leil Lowdes
57. Point and figure charting - Heinrich weber
58. Fedex Delivers - Madan Birla
59. What you don't know may be killing you - Don Colbert
60. The Enchantress of Florence - Salman Rvshdie
61. Women's best kept secret - Dawn Yanek
62. Art of closing the sale - Brian Tracy
63. Executive success - Rodale center for executive development
64. The 10 second kiss - Ellen Kreidman
65. 52 ways to live success - Jeanne Sharbuno
66. Your Unlimited potential - Roxanne Louise
67. Power of 5 - Robert Kooper
68. Meeting the shadow- Connie Zweiy
69. The complete I Ching - Alfred Huang
70. HOw to argue and win everytime - Gerry Spence
71. Inspiration - Dr. Wayne Dyer
72. The mind of stratergist - Kenichi Ohmae
73 The art of war - Nicolo` Machiavelli
74. how to get what you want from almost anybody - T. Scott Gross
75. HOw to win any negotication - Roberty Mayer
76. Philosophy - Ayn Rand
77. the quick and easy way to effective speaking - dale carnegie
78. The sigma six way - Peter Pande, Roland Cavanagh
79. Microtrends - Mark Penn
80. How you can be more interesting - Edward De Bono
81. Kellogs
82. How To Grow Fresh Air - B.C. Wolverton
83. Everything you want to know about investing - Kotak and CNBC
84. Secrets of Millionare Mind - T. Harv Eker
85. Net success 2.0 - Christina Ford Haylock
86. Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap … and Others Don't -- Jim Collins
87. Blue ocean stratergy- W.Chan Kim and Renée Mauborgne
88. World is flat - Thomas Friedman
89. 4 hour workweek - Timothy Ferris
90. 4 hour cookbook - Tim Ferriss
91.
92.
93.
94.
95.
96.
97.
98.
99.
100.
101.
102.
Rich dad poor dad series
1. cashflow qudrant
2. Prophecy
3. loop holes of the rich
4. guide to investing
5. retire young and retire rich
2. Evolution of Desire - David Buss
3. Walmart- don soderquist
4. Fear it and do it anyways- Susan Jeffers
5. HOw to read person like a book - Gerald Nierenberg
6. Da vinci notebooks- Leonardo Da Vinci
7. the six value medals- edward de bono
8. how to have beautiful mind- edward de bono
9. How to sell anything to anybody - Joe Girard
10. The Toyota Way - Jefferey K. Liker
11 Execution - Larry Bossidy
12. Why men can't listen and women can't read maps - Alan Flusser
13. HOw a man stays young
14. Genome - Matt Ridley
15. Silent Power - Stuart Wilde
16. Unaccustomed Earth - Thampa Labizi
17. The Starbuck experience - Joseph a. Michelli
18. The selfish Gene- Richard Dawkins
19. Comedy writing secrets - Melvin Helitzer
20. YOu can win - Shiv Khera
21. Donald Trump: The Art of the Deal
22. Why we want you to be rich - Donald Trump & Robert Kiyosaki
23. The power of subconsious mind -Dr. Joseph Murphy
24. HOw to make esp work for you - Harold Sherman
25. Super power memory - Harry Lorayne
26. Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle
27. The Afghan - Frederick Forsyth
28. 7 habits of effective people - Stephen R. Covey
29. Success in 30 days - A.P. Pereira
30. Talk and grow Rich - Ron Holland
31. 50 success classics
32. The magic of pscyhograms - helyn hitchcock
33. Ultra Psychonics delaney
34. It takes one minute to change your life - Delaney
35. Hypnosis for change
36. The new leader - Daniel Goleman
37. The social Intelligence - Daniel Goleman
38. How to read better and faster - Norman Lewis
39. Deception Point - Dan Brown
40. War - Robert Greene
41. Sexual Palmistry - Nathaniel Altman
42. Think and grow rich - Napolean Hill
43. The automatic millionare - David Bach
44. Optimal Thinking - Rosalene Glickman
45. Awaken the giant with in - Anthony Robbins
46. It's Not about the bike - Lance Armstrong
47. Mind your manners - John Mole
48. Mexican American folklore - JOhn West
49. Stratergic Management - Robinson & Pearse
50. Vital Factors - Lee Frochheiser
51. How to Win Friends & Influence People - Dale Carnegie
52. Built to Last - Jim Collins
53. Lean Solutions - James P. Womack
54. Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress- Free Productivity - David Allen
55. Finding the next starbucks - Michael Moe
56. How to talk to anyone - Leil Lowdes
57. Point and figure charting - Heinrich weber
58. Fedex Delivers - Madan Birla
59. What you don't know may be killing you - Don Colbert
60. The Enchantress of Florence - Salman Rvshdie
61. Women's best kept secret - Dawn Yanek
62. Art of closing the sale - Brian Tracy
63. Executive success - Rodale center for executive development
64. The 10 second kiss - Ellen Kreidman
65. 52 ways to live success - Jeanne Sharbuno
66. Your Unlimited potential - Roxanne Louise
67. Power of 5 - Robert Kooper
68. Meeting the shadow- Connie Zweiy
69. The complete I Ching - Alfred Huang
70. HOw to argue and win everytime - Gerry Spence
71. Inspiration - Dr. Wayne Dyer
72. The mind of stratergist - Kenichi Ohmae
73 The art of war - Nicolo` Machiavelli
74. how to get what you want from almost anybody - T. Scott Gross
75. HOw to win any negotication - Roberty Mayer
76. Philosophy - Ayn Rand
77. the quick and easy way to effective speaking - dale carnegie
78. The sigma six way - Peter Pande, Roland Cavanagh
79. Microtrends - Mark Penn
80. How you can be more interesting - Edward De Bono
81. Kellogs
82. How To Grow Fresh Air - B.C. Wolverton
83. Everything you want to know about investing - Kotak and CNBC
84. Secrets of Millionare Mind - T. Harv Eker
85. Net success 2.0 - Christina Ford Haylock
86. Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap … and Others Don't -- Jim Collins
87. Blue ocean stratergy- W.Chan Kim and Renée Mauborgne
88. World is flat - Thomas Friedman
89. 4 hour workweek - Timothy Ferris
90. 4 hour cookbook - Tim Ferriss
91.
92.
93.
94.
95.
96.
97.
98.
99.
100.
101.
102.
Rich dad poor dad series
1. cashflow qudrant
2. Prophecy
3. loop holes of the rich
4. guide to investing
5. retire young and retire rich
My small library
1. You can negotiate - Herb cohen
2. Iwoz - Steve Wozniak
3. We are like that only - Rama Bijapurkar
4. The house of Klein - Lisa Marsh
5. How to be a teenage millionare - James Moore
6. The art of deception - Kevin Mitnick
7. Anyone you want me to be - John Douglas
8. Digital fortress - Dan Brown
9. Crimes and criminal -
10. Worlds greatest secret
11. Wings of fire - Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam
12. how dell does it- steven hoizner
13. Harry Potter and prisoner of azkaban
14. Unofficial guide to ethical hacking - ankit fadia
15. the ethical guide to corporate security - ankit fadia
16. network security - ankit fadia
17. mobine hacking - ankit fadia
18. Hacking exposed 3rd edition- stuart mcclure
19. Emotional intelligence - Daniel goleman
20. working with emotional intelligence - daniel goleman
21. vital lies simple truth - daniel goleman
22. The game - Neil strauss
23. 48 laws of power - robert greene
24. laws of seduction - robert greene
25. seduce( 100 tips to arouse)
26. Eureka - Willian Diehl
27. Harry potter and goblet of fire
29. The perfect store (ebay) - Adam Cohen
30. It's my life - Harsh Bharwani
31. Shantaram - Gregory David Roberts
32. 11 minutes - Paulo Coelho
33. State of Fear - Michael Crishton
34. Da Vinci Decoded - Michael J. Gelb
35. How to think like Leonardo Da Vinci - Michael J. Gelb (borrowed by Satyendra [vishal])
36. The rules- Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider
37. Jesus Lived in India - HOlger Kersten
38. Everyone worth knowing - Lauren Weisberger
39. Diary - Chuck palahniuk
40. Fight Club - Chuck palahniuk
41. Lullaby - Chuck palahniuk
42. Choke - CHuck palahniuk
43. Invisible Monsters - CHuck palahniuk
44. Haunted- Chuck palahniuk
45. Rant - Chuck palahniuk
46. Alexander book 2: Valerio Massimo manfredi
47. Alexander book 3: Valerio Massimo manfredi
48. Atlas shtrugged - Ayn Road
49. The cracking codebook - Simon Singh
50. It happenned in India - Kishore Biyani
51. Chasing Harry Winston - Lauren Weisberger
52. The 3 mistakes of my life - Chetal Bhagat
53. The Fountainhead - Ayn Rand
54. Clash of Titans - Richard Hackman
55. Freakonomics - Seven D. Levitt & Sephen J. Dubner
56. We the living- Ayn Rand
57. The road ahead - Bill Gates
58. Fermat's Last Theorem - Simon Singh
59. The google - David A. Vise
60. the apple way - jeffery l. cruikshank
61. Cold Steel - Tim Bouquet & Byron Ouser
62. HP way - David Packard
63. Fashion Brands - Mark Tungate
64. Sony - John Nathan
65. The romance of Tata Steel - R.M. Lala
66. Losing my virginity - Richard Branson
67. Buffett: The Making of an American Capitalist - Roger Lowenstein
68. Business Stripped Bare - Richard Branson
69. Angels And Demon - Dan Brown
70. Deception point - Dan brown
71. The White Tiger - Aravind Adiga
72. Driven from within - Michael Jordan
73. Albert Einstein - Alice Calaprice & Daniel T. Jones
74. Napoleon - Emil Ludwig
75. The lost symbol - Dan Brown
76. Third Wave - Irvin Toffler
77. BPO Sutra
78. Don't lose your mind Lose your weight - Rujuta Diwekar
79. Dreams from my Fathers - Barack Obama
80. Sex Sells - Rodger Streitmatter
81. . The warren buffet way - Robert G. Hagstorm
82. Emergency - Neil Strauss
83. Coca Cola - Frederick L. Allen
84. Banish your belly - Men's Health
85. The Secret - Rhonda Byrne
86. Outliers - Malcolm Gladwell
87. Picture perfect weight loss - Dr. shapiro
88. Disney War - James B. Stewart
89. Mcdonald - John F. Love
90. Secrets of Meluha trilogy
91. The tipping point - malcom gladwell
92. Business @ speed of thought - Bill Gates
93. E- myth mastery - Michael E. Gerber
94. Screw it, Let's Do it - Richard Branson
95. Audacity of Hope - Barack Obama
96. Blink - Malcolm Gladwell
99. Nestle
100. Every second counts - lance Armstrong
101. Flashboys - Michael Lewis
102.
2. Iwoz - Steve Wozniak
3. We are like that only - Rama Bijapurkar
4. The house of Klein - Lisa Marsh
5. How to be a teenage millionare - James Moore
6. The art of deception - Kevin Mitnick
7. Anyone you want me to be - John Douglas
8. Digital fortress - Dan Brown
9. Crimes and criminal -
10. Worlds greatest secret
11. Wings of fire - Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam
12. how dell does it- steven hoizner
13. Harry Potter and prisoner of azkaban
14. Unofficial guide to ethical hacking - ankit fadia
15. the ethical guide to corporate security - ankit fadia
16. network security - ankit fadia
17. mobine hacking - ankit fadia
18. Hacking exposed 3rd edition- stuart mcclure
19. Emotional intelligence - Daniel goleman
20. working with emotional intelligence - daniel goleman
21. vital lies simple truth - daniel goleman
22. The game - Neil strauss
23. 48 laws of power - robert greene
24. laws of seduction - robert greene
25. seduce( 100 tips to arouse)
26. Eureka - Willian Diehl
27. Harry potter and goblet of fire
29. The perfect store (ebay) - Adam Cohen
30. It's my life - Harsh Bharwani
31. Shantaram - Gregory David Roberts
32. 11 minutes - Paulo Coelho
33. State of Fear - Michael Crishton
34. Da Vinci Decoded - Michael J. Gelb
35. How to think like Leonardo Da Vinci - Michael J. Gelb (borrowed by Satyendra [vishal])
36. The rules- Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider
37. Jesus Lived in India - HOlger Kersten
38. Everyone worth knowing - Lauren Weisberger
39. Diary - Chuck palahniuk
40. Fight Club - Chuck palahniuk
41. Lullaby - Chuck palahniuk
42. Choke - CHuck palahniuk
43. Invisible Monsters - CHuck palahniuk
44. Haunted- Chuck palahniuk
45. Rant - Chuck palahniuk
46. Alexander book 2: Valerio Massimo manfredi
47. Alexander book 3: Valerio Massimo manfredi
48. Atlas shtrugged - Ayn Road
49. The cracking codebook - Simon Singh
50. It happenned in India - Kishore Biyani
51. Chasing Harry Winston - Lauren Weisberger
52. The 3 mistakes of my life - Chetal Bhagat
53. The Fountainhead - Ayn Rand
54. Clash of Titans - Richard Hackman
55. Freakonomics - Seven D. Levitt & Sephen J. Dubner
56. We the living- Ayn Rand
57. The road ahead - Bill Gates
58. Fermat's Last Theorem - Simon Singh
59. The google - David A. Vise
60. the apple way - jeffery l. cruikshank
61. Cold Steel - Tim Bouquet & Byron Ouser
62. HP way - David Packard
63. Fashion Brands - Mark Tungate
64. Sony - John Nathan
65. The romance of Tata Steel - R.M. Lala
66. Losing my virginity - Richard Branson
67. Buffett: The Making of an American Capitalist - Roger Lowenstein
68. Business Stripped Bare - Richard Branson
69. Angels And Demon - Dan Brown
70. Deception point - Dan brown
71. The White Tiger - Aravind Adiga
72. Driven from within - Michael Jordan
73. Albert Einstein - Alice Calaprice & Daniel T. Jones
74. Napoleon - Emil Ludwig
75. The lost symbol - Dan Brown
76. Third Wave - Irvin Toffler
77. BPO Sutra
78. Don't lose your mind Lose your weight - Rujuta Diwekar
79. Dreams from my Fathers - Barack Obama
80. Sex Sells - Rodger Streitmatter
81. . The warren buffet way - Robert G. Hagstorm
82. Emergency - Neil Strauss
83. Coca Cola - Frederick L. Allen
84. Banish your belly - Men's Health
85. The Secret - Rhonda Byrne
86. Outliers - Malcolm Gladwell
87. Picture perfect weight loss - Dr. shapiro
88. Disney War - James B. Stewart
89. Mcdonald - John F. Love
90. Secrets of Meluha trilogy
91. The tipping point - malcom gladwell
92. Business @ speed of thought - Bill Gates
93. E- myth mastery - Michael E. Gerber
94. Screw it, Let's Do it - Richard Branson
95. Audacity of Hope - Barack Obama
96. Blink - Malcolm Gladwell
99. Nestle
100. Every second counts - lance Armstrong
101. Flashboys - Michael Lewis
102.
Saturday, January 06, 2007
Cut Down Comparison
Have you ever found yourself at an industry event and suddenly you are comparing yourself to everyone else in the room?
You know. You get a bunch of people together who are in the same field (actors, writers, real estate agents, marketers, coaches, fitness people - doesn't matter) and all of a sudden people have a lot of awareness on who's 'made it' and who 'hasn't'.
Thoughts like "I wish I was successful as she is." or "His career is really soaring and I'm still stuck in nowhere land." can run rampant.
Here's the problem. Comparison is a KILLER of your well being and productivity.
While it's normal to compare, if you don't become aware of it - you can waste loads of time and energy comparing yourself to others and not getting anything of YOUR OWN done.
You'll also leave industry events feeling somehow 'less than' or 'drained' without knowing exactly why.
Here's the truth. There are over 6.5 billion people on planet earth. There is only ONE YOU in the entire universe. No one is better or worse than you -nor are they 'ahead' or 'behind' you. We've each got our own little journey called our life and our own unique gifts to share with the world.
There's no one right way to live or one route to success. Your path and timeline is as wonderful and glorious as the next guys (or gals!).
Furthermore, since no two things can occupy the same space at the same time, when you are locked in comparison mode - that's all you can be doing. You cannot be creating, producing, sharing or enjoying.
If you chronically compare, don't worry. All it takes to kick the habit is a little awareness.
So remember. Next time you're about to place yourself in the imaginary hierarchy of life, cut it out. Preserve your well-being and simply live YOUR life. It's much easier to appreciate and enjoy what others do when you don't compare yourself to them.
-Marie Forleo
You know. You get a bunch of people together who are in the same field (actors, writers, real estate agents, marketers, coaches, fitness people - doesn't matter) and all of a sudden people have a lot of awareness on who's 'made it' and who 'hasn't'.
Thoughts like "I wish I was successful as she is." or "His career is really soaring and I'm still stuck in nowhere land." can run rampant.
Here's the problem. Comparison is a KILLER of your well being and productivity.
While it's normal to compare, if you don't become aware of it - you can waste loads of time and energy comparing yourself to others and not getting anything of YOUR OWN done.
You'll also leave industry events feeling somehow 'less than' or 'drained' without knowing exactly why.
Here's the truth. There are over 6.5 billion people on planet earth. There is only ONE YOU in the entire universe. No one is better or worse than you -nor are they 'ahead' or 'behind' you. We've each got our own little journey called our life and our own unique gifts to share with the world.
There's no one right way to live or one route to success. Your path and timeline is as wonderful and glorious as the next guys (or gals!).
Furthermore, since no two things can occupy the same space at the same time, when you are locked in comparison mode - that's all you can be doing. You cannot be creating, producing, sharing or enjoying.
If you chronically compare, don't worry. All it takes to kick the habit is a little awareness.
So remember. Next time you're about to place yourself in the imaginary hierarchy of life, cut it out. Preserve your well-being and simply live YOUR life. It's much easier to appreciate and enjoy what others do when you don't compare yourself to them.
-Marie Forleo
What are you NOT saying?
Do you withhold communications? Do you have things to say to people but simply don't?
Do you tell little white lies to keep the peace, or look the other way when you notice something 'slightly' dishonest is happening?
If the answer to any of the above is 'yes' - you're not alone. A study by Dr. Micheal Lewis states that "In a single day, most of us lie a minimum of 25 times."
While 25 times may seem like a high number, when we take a closer look, he's probably in the right ballpark.
For example:
1. If your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend asks you "What's wrong?" do you quickly reply "Nothing," but have a laundry list of things you could speak about?
2. If people ask you how you are doing, do you answer "Great!" even when you may be feeling a little off or have something you'd like to talk about?
3. Do you hold back from having difficult conversations for fear of what the other person's reaction may be - even though you KNOW you need to say something?
Like it or not, these are all forms of lying and have a deadly effect on your aliveness, productivity and ability to make money.
Every time you lie or withhold a communication, it's as though you are pro-actively killing off your life force. Symptoms include growing grumpy, less clear, sick, tired and overwhelmed.
Don't get suckered in by the idea of 'white lies' or 'little' untruths. There's no such thing!
Now that you know how important what you're NOT saying is, do you need help finding the right way to say it best?
Do you tell little white lies to keep the peace, or look the other way when you notice something 'slightly' dishonest is happening?
If the answer to any of the above is 'yes' - you're not alone. A study by Dr. Micheal Lewis states that "In a single day, most of us lie a minimum of 25 times."
While 25 times may seem like a high number, when we take a closer look, he's probably in the right ballpark.
For example:
1. If your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend asks you "What's wrong?" do you quickly reply "Nothing," but have a laundry list of things you could speak about?
2. If people ask you how you are doing, do you answer "Great!" even when you may be feeling a little off or have something you'd like to talk about?
3. Do you hold back from having difficult conversations for fear of what the other person's reaction may be - even though you KNOW you need to say something?
Like it or not, these are all forms of lying and have a deadly effect on your aliveness, productivity and ability to make money.
Every time you lie or withhold a communication, it's as though you are pro-actively killing off your life force. Symptoms include growing grumpy, less clear, sick, tired and overwhelmed.
Don't get suckered in by the idea of 'white lies' or 'little' untruths. There's no such thing!
Now that you know how important what you're NOT saying is, do you need help finding the right way to say it best?
right questions
Are You Asking Yourself The Wrong Questions?
If you’ve ever found yourself upset, overwhelmed or in a funk and had trouble trying to ‘reason’ yourself out of it, then this article is written especially for you.
In fact, when life gets a little wonky, most people have trouble quickly getting over it because they ask the wrong questions. They use ‘why’ questions to try and figure out the upset – as though the logic based mind can reason itself out of an emotional and energetic state of being.
That approach is as effective as politely asking an untrained dog to stop peeing on the living room floor. Wrong approach = poor results.
Here’s some common ‘why’ questions that typically lead to the land of nowhere: Why do I always get angry? Why didn’t he call? Why am I so frustrated at work?
Here’s a fact: If you want to quickly regain your center so you can have great relationships, make more money and enjoy your life - forget about ‘why’ and start asking ‘what’.
‘What’ questions pull you into the moment and interrupt your well-conditioned logic system. They help you bypass the analyzing mind and compel you to observe. By neutrally observing what’s actually happening, you can dissolve your upset or funk.
Here are 3 WHAT questions to get you started.
1. “WHAT am I experiencing right now?”
Describe the actual sensation. Where is it located in your body? How big is it? Does it have a color associated with it? If it were a number from 1-10, 10 being the extreme, what number would it be. Here’s a hint: Pretend you are a scientist looking at an experiment and simply notate your discoveries. (Important: I said notate – not judge!)
2. “WHAT am I engaging in at this moment?”
Are you stewing in your mind about how overwhelmed you are OR are you actually getting something done? Remember, no two things can occupy the same mind at the same time. You’re either complaining or you’re producing. This is one the easiest ways to get yourself back on track.
3. “WHAT are my thoughts saying?"
Notice your thoughts instead of personalizing them. Say, “Hmmm…isn’t that interesting.” In my book, Make Every Man Want You, I have an entire chapter devoted to the fact that you have a mind, but you are NOT your mind, so I won’t get into that here. But once you get that your thoughts are not you, and not necessarily true, you can easily unwire upsets and funks by learning to non-judgmentally observe them.
Now here’s another great ‘what’ question to ask yourself: WHAT would you accomplish in your business – and life - if you discovered how to quickly dissolve every upset or frustration that comes along?
WHAT would your life look like without any drama at all?
If you really want to find out, then sign up for private coaching before my January 23 rate increase. Note: Only contact me if you are SERIOUS about having your life transform. If you are committed to whining, complaining or victimization – please go elsewhere.
If you’ve ever found yourself upset, overwhelmed or in a funk and had trouble trying to ‘reason’ yourself out of it, then this article is written especially for you.
In fact, when life gets a little wonky, most people have trouble quickly getting over it because they ask the wrong questions. They use ‘why’ questions to try and figure out the upset – as though the logic based mind can reason itself out of an emotional and energetic state of being.
That approach is as effective as politely asking an untrained dog to stop peeing on the living room floor. Wrong approach = poor results.
Here’s some common ‘why’ questions that typically lead to the land of nowhere: Why do I always get angry? Why didn’t he call? Why am I so frustrated at work?
Here’s a fact: If you want to quickly regain your center so you can have great relationships, make more money and enjoy your life - forget about ‘why’ and start asking ‘what’.
‘What’ questions pull you into the moment and interrupt your well-conditioned logic system. They help you bypass the analyzing mind and compel you to observe. By neutrally observing what’s actually happening, you can dissolve your upset or funk.
Here are 3 WHAT questions to get you started.
1. “WHAT am I experiencing right now?”
Describe the actual sensation. Where is it located in your body? How big is it? Does it have a color associated with it? If it were a number from 1-10, 10 being the extreme, what number would it be. Here’s a hint: Pretend you are a scientist looking at an experiment and simply notate your discoveries. (Important: I said notate – not judge!)
2. “WHAT am I engaging in at this moment?”
Are you stewing in your mind about how overwhelmed you are OR are you actually getting something done? Remember, no two things can occupy the same mind at the same time. You’re either complaining or you’re producing. This is one the easiest ways to get yourself back on track.
3. “WHAT are my thoughts saying?"
Notice your thoughts instead of personalizing them. Say, “Hmmm…isn’t that interesting.” In my book, Make Every Man Want You, I have an entire chapter devoted to the fact that you have a mind, but you are NOT your mind, so I won’t get into that here. But once you get that your thoughts are not you, and not necessarily true, you can easily unwire upsets and funks by learning to non-judgmentally observe them.
Now here’s another great ‘what’ question to ask yourself: WHAT would you accomplish in your business – and life - if you discovered how to quickly dissolve every upset or frustration that comes along?
WHAT would your life look like without any drama at all?
If you really want to find out, then sign up for private coaching before my January 23 rate increase. Note: Only contact me if you are SERIOUS about having your life transform. If you are committed to whining, complaining or victimization – please go elsewhere.
Racism
The following scene took place on a BA flight between Johannesburg and London.
A White woman, about 50 years old, was seated next to a Black man. Obviously disturbed by this, she called the air Hostess.
"Madam, what is the matter," the Hostess asked."You obviously do not see it then?" she responded.
"You placed me next to a Black man.I do not agree to sit next to someone from such a repugnant group.Give me an alternative seat."
"Be calm please, " the Hostess replied.
"Almost all the places on this flight are taken.I will go to see if another seat is available."
The Hostess went away and then came back a few minutes later.
"Madam, just as I thought, there are no other available seats in the Economy class.I spoke to the Captain and he informed me that there is also no seats in the Business class. All the same, we still have one seat in the First class."
Before the woman could say anything, the Hostess continued: "It is not usual for our company to permit someone from
the Economy class to sit in the First class.However, given the circumstances,the Captain feels that it would be scandalous to make someone sit next to someone so disgusting."
She turned to the Black guy, and said,"Therefore, Sir,if you would like to, please collect your hand luggage,
a seat awaits you in First class."
At that moment, the other passengers who were shocked by what they had just witnessed stood up and applauded.
A White woman, about 50 years old, was seated next to a Black man. Obviously disturbed by this, she called the air Hostess.
"Madam, what is the matter," the Hostess asked."You obviously do not see it then?" she responded.
"You placed me next to a Black man.I do not agree to sit next to someone from such a repugnant group.Give me an alternative seat."
"Be calm please, " the Hostess replied.
"Almost all the places on this flight are taken.I will go to see if another seat is available."
The Hostess went away and then came back a few minutes later.
"Madam, just as I thought, there are no other available seats in the Economy class.I spoke to the Captain and he informed me that there is also no seats in the Business class. All the same, we still have one seat in the First class."
Before the woman could say anything, the Hostess continued: "It is not usual for our company to permit someone from
the Economy class to sit in the First class.However, given the circumstances,the Captain feels that it would be scandalous to make someone sit next to someone so disgusting."
She turned to the Black guy, and said,"Therefore, Sir,if you would like to, please collect your hand luggage,
a seat awaits you in First class."
At that moment, the other passengers who were shocked by what they had just witnessed stood up and applauded.
Beautiful thoughts
1. my belief is follow the end of rainbow, u will reach atleast somewhere
2.In God we trust; all others must pay cash
3.The philosophy of one century is the common sense of the next
4.He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals
5.The only good is knowledge and the only evil is ignorance
6.Women can survive without men. All they need is two best friends, one to gossip to and the other to gossip about
7.People can make decisions based not on what they actually want to do, but on what they think that other people want to do, with the result that everybody decides to do something that nobody really wants to do, but only what they thought that everybody else wanted to do.
8.Change your thoughts to change your actions.
Change your actions to change your habits.
Change your habits to change your character.
Change your character and you change your destiny
9.Everything is biased. If you disagree with me, it is due to a bias of your own self
10.Life is a coin. You can spend it anyway you wish, but you can only spend it once.
11.Now there sits a man with an open mind. You can feel the draft from
here. - Groucho Marx
12.I was so naive as a kid I used to sneak behind the barn and do
nothing. - Johnny Carson
13.To be loved, you have to be nice to others every day. To be hated,
you don't have to do squat. - Homer Simpson
14.My advice to you is get married: if you find a good wife you'll be
happy; if not, you'll become a philosopher. - Socrates
15.As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.
Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.
16. All men make mistakes, but married men find out about them sooner
2.In God we trust; all others must pay cash
3.The philosophy of one century is the common sense of the next
4.He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals
5.The only good is knowledge and the only evil is ignorance
6.Women can survive without men. All they need is two best friends, one to gossip to and the other to gossip about
7.People can make decisions based not on what they actually want to do, but on what they think that other people want to do, with the result that everybody decides to do something that nobody really wants to do, but only what they thought that everybody else wanted to do.
8.Change your thoughts to change your actions.
Change your actions to change your habits.
Change your habits to change your character.
Change your character and you change your destiny
9.Everything is biased. If you disagree with me, it is due to a bias of your own self
10.Life is a coin. You can spend it anyway you wish, but you can only spend it once.
11.Now there sits a man with an open mind. You can feel the draft from
here. - Groucho Marx
12.I was so naive as a kid I used to sneak behind the barn and do
nothing. - Johnny Carson
13.To be loved, you have to be nice to others every day. To be hated,
you don't have to do squat. - Homer Simpson
14.My advice to you is get married: if you find a good wife you'll be
happy; if not, you'll become a philosopher. - Socrates
15.As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.
Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.
16. All men make mistakes, but married men find out about them sooner
Monday, January 01, 2007
New Year Code
1 - I will develop myself to the maximum of my potential in all ways.
2 - I will forget the mistakes of the past and press on to greater achievements.
3 - I will always be in a positive frame of mind and convey this feeling to every person that I meet.
4 - I will continually work at developing love, happiness and loyalty in my family and acknowledge that no other success can compensate for failure in the home.
5 - I will look for the good in all people and make them feel worthwhile.
6 - If I have nothing good to say about a person, I will say nothing.
7 - I will give so much time to the improvement of myself that I will have no time to criticize others.
8 - I will always be as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.
9 - I will maintain an attitude of open-mindedness toward another person's viewpoint while still holding fast to that which I know to be true and honest.
10 - I will start relationships with all the females I like this year.
11 - I will always remain loyal to God, family and my friends.
12 - I will remain highly goal-oriented throughout my life because that positive attitude helps my family and myself
2 - I will forget the mistakes of the past and press on to greater achievements.
3 - I will always be in a positive frame of mind and convey this feeling to every person that I meet.
4 - I will continually work at developing love, happiness and loyalty in my family and acknowledge that no other success can compensate for failure in the home.
5 - I will look for the good in all people and make them feel worthwhile.
6 - If I have nothing good to say about a person, I will say nothing.
7 - I will give so much time to the improvement of myself that I will have no time to criticize others.
8 - I will always be as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.
9 - I will maintain an attitude of open-mindedness toward another person's viewpoint while still holding fast to that which I know to be true and honest.
10 - I will start relationships with all the females I like this year.
11 - I will always remain loyal to God, family and my friends.
12 - I will remain highly goal-oriented throughout my life because that positive attitude helps my family and myself
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